Joshua 24:15 – And if it seem evil unto you to serve the LORD, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.
My vision for our church, community and nation is to be extremely successful in the natural and spiritual realms, and I believe it starts with a strong family bond. That is why I have been sharing a set of characteristics I was given when I worked with underprivileged children and their parents in the late 80’s. These are time tested values proven to launch a family into new and exciting avenues of life.
Ten Characteristics of Effective Families
- A feeling of control over their lives – You have choices! You can say No! You can start again! You can do it!
- Frequent communication of high expectation – Talk more about what you want to become and how it will be done than what you do not have. Be positive! Speak positive!
- A family dream of success for the future. Talk with your family members about your dreams and listen to their dreams of success. Celebrate every small success in your life.
- Hard work seen as the key to success. Nothing comes easy. It takes 21 days to change a bad habit and create a new positive one. Put in the work and it will happen. The hard work will pay off.
- An active, not sedentary lifestyle. Get involved in new things. Visit new places. Make new friends.
- Twenty-five to thirty five home centered learning hours per week. Read a book. Enjoy self help and improvement shows. Learn a new word every day. Talk with your family about their day. Make it a learning experience!
- The family viewed as a mutual support system and problem solving unit. The worst thing you can do is try to do it all by yourself. Your family needs to be involved in matters that affect them.
- Clearly understood household rules consistently enforced. Enough said! If everyone agrees and understand their role, then they are held accountable and responsible to fulfill their role. No exceptions!
- Frequent contact with educators. If you have school aged children, it is important to support them in their education. One of the best ways is to team up with the teacher and principal and build a safety net around your child. Share your family dream of success for the future with their teacher.
- Emphasis on spiritual growth. This is more than attending church. This is speaking, reading, praying and living a Christian life 24/7. The key word is “growth”. Everything that is living is growing and maturing. This is God’s command on your life – Grow!
Bishop John L. Godbolt